Life Is Not A Topic.  Negative Headlines In The Media

Life Is Not A Topic. Negative Headlines In The Media

Power of Thoughts

In a world that everyone has an opinion, and wants to be heard, it saddens me more to see how much hostility and attacks can happen when someone just wants to share a thought.

The power of thought that is embraced can lead to change.


Change the way you think

My personal background, in my early years, before I claimed my own independence had included being in a very negative and hostile environment.

I know from my own experience how important and influential it is to surround yourself and or immerse yourself in things that can help have a strong mind, and pursuing positivity truly is the key.    You do not ever have to be bound to being or becoming what someone else has tried to tell you would or should be.

Living your life to be happy is completely up to you.

You are in charge of your thoughts.

Your thoughts are what can lead you to places that you never could of dreamt of going to….or…living a life that you went against the “odds” to achieve


Guard Your Mental Health Through Covid-19

I have to share that during this 2020 Corona Pandemic has been a real test for all of us, the planet, and our livelihoods.    I can share with you that I had so much of an interest in science, however, I was not ever very good at math.

I was drawn to be a hairstylist since I was about 8 years old, but some of my favorite classes in school were:

  • Sociology
  • Anatomy
  • Physiology

Did you know that your thoughts can really affect how you physically feel?

As I’m not in the medical field, have you ever thought about the best day of your life, and how does that make you feel?

Have you ever watched a VERY NEGATIVE NEWS STORY?   How did or does that make you feel.


T.V. News Headlines – Fastforward To Enjoy Your Life

My younger years could have had me look at the world as being just a very dark and broken place.  I could of adopted the dysfunctional ideas and ideals from another human being, but I didn’t.

My one loving parent had passed away, and the rest of the dysfunctional days were similar to the negative headlines, that are in the news, and most recently I have become like “Momma Bear” about help others become aware of the tactics that the news are using to “keep us (informed?)… how about scared.

I think it is fair to say that this 2020 Covid-19 has been a complete interrupter for everyone and to everything that our own routines, that can provide us our sense of security.


Turn Off The Negative Commercials…turn on a Positive Mindset

About a week ago, you will find that the first step that I took to regroup to lessen the “negativity” in my own life was to “deactivate” my Facebook App icon on my Note 10.    I found that I was still scrolling too much, and I do love “staying connected” however my feed has become not a fun space or enjoyable, but yet I found myself still scrolling.

Without the app so accessible, I have been getting more things done.   For instance, writing this article that I hope will help you or someone.

On the topic of our local media, I have had a great “positive” relationship for years, however in light of the last 3 months of this pandemic, and my business just being allowed to reopen has made me look at that medium very, very differently.

As my business had been shut down, I was tuning in for my “happy beginning”  (not ending) of my business getting to reopen.    I heard in the past that “you are what you eat”, and boy….how about your thoughts can be so influenced by external sources……..but….only if you let them.

I feel that I have more empathy and understanding for people during this time, if they never had a dark upbringing.  Because the T.V. and Media could really scare the crap out of you.


Turn On Your Positive Mindset

If you are someone that has heard the terms “mindset” but figured that maybe it was just a bunch of kool-aid drinking people that do not really “know what life is about”, then I hope this article has evoked one of your thoughts to explore it more.

Ask yourself this?     What is the outcome of the negativity that news outlets share?

Are those stories helping you?

Are they making your business stronger?

Are they bringing your family closer together?

Not all of the media is bad….there are times there are “investigative reports that truly uncover” more dysfunction, however, if you averaged the amount of airtime that was given to the positive……it’s not much.


Jumpstart Your Day!

Our small little handheld devices are so needy!    hahahha

It’s like they control our arm before we are fully awake.    The alarm goes off, and the arm goes out, and what does your arm do?    I bet it grabs your phone, right?

Let the “scrolling NOT begin”.


About 3 years ago

I wish I could tell you exactly what it was that lead me down the path of creating a daily routine of “jumpstarting” my day with a daily dose of mindfulness but here is what I have found very helpful:

  • Don’t check your electronics right away
  • Put on something that is motivational to you
  • Find an uplifting podcast
  • Maybe tune into Tony Robbins
  • Get Moving and Exercise!!

I had come across Fearless Motivation that really had spoken to me about “getting things done”, and the tracks are fantastic to walk to.

Don’t Have Time?

Make the time….everyday to put yourself first, and even if it is only for 10 minutes, you will set yourself up to be ready for your day or the day that life will give you.

VISUALIZE making “happy time” for yourself and with yourself, that is uninterrupted by anything or anyone that may not be on the same “channel” as you.

Because….Life Is Not a Topic.
And you are in CONTROL of writing your own headlines, and what “your story can be” for every day.


Life is not a topic.

Life is meant to be lived.

Live if Life without commercials.

Your life and Your mind….what a beautiful movie.   

~Ann Walts

Ann Marie Walts - Lifestyle Blogger


Condescension Among Professions

Condescension Among Professions

Have you ever experienced, in a social situation, the infamous question of “what do you do?

There are times, looking back, that I feel that life can be so rushed.    I know that the back of my Barbie doll box did not come with a set of instructions for what  a grown up life would entail.       (Maybe a good thing it did not….hahaha)

As a kid, there seems to be no worries, troubles and the best tool that was used throughout a given day; was our imaginations.    Carefree bliss with no stresses of the big “what do you do?” question.

You could share blowing bubbles without a care in the world with your playmates without them caring or asking…..”well what type or brand of bubbles are you using, because I will only play with you if they are a certain type.”


What Do You Want To Be….when you grow up?


How about the “what do you want to be….when you grow up?”  question that was asked and probably caused a bit of added pressure.     Not everyone wakes up and knows the answer to that, and for some of us, if you do then you are lucky.

Myself personally, I knew that I wanted to be a “hairdresser”, and that was when I was about 8 years old.   Maybe for just, but a few of us, are we lucky enough to know the answer to that question, and to enjoy following through with that decision.

Condescension vs Quality of Enjoying life


Money, religion and politics are very, very hot topics that are rooted with strong emotional opinions.    I have been a hairstylist for close to 25 years, and have had the pleasure of working with very different people; from all walks of life.


Career Choice & Peer Pressure


What influences us to choose our careers?

  • Family
  • Wanting Status
  • Seemed like a good idea?


Sometimes it may be our family’s history of professions, but what do you choose when maybe your family does not have a certain career path history?

Or How about the “what if”…..your young decision is one that you want but your parents do not approve?

Or… do you simply decide, in general?


Best Advice…..

From my own personal and professional experiences, I can share with you that it is best to choose your path that will lead to you enjoying   the best quality of life.

It will be you, that has to go to that job (profession) that you chose.   If the choice is based more on a chart, that projects the annually salary versus your personal interests ; then it could wind up being a really long “grown up” road.


Peer Pressure & Approval

About 20 years ago, I was at a dinner party when I first experienced “condescension regarding my profession”.    I was asked, the famous question of ‘what do you do?”, by another women.

That was when I realized that sometimes others, put “value” or judge others by what someone has chosen for a profession.

What happened?  

As soon as I responded, with enthusiasm…..”I am a hairstylist!”; she then said, “oh….” and turned away from me.      At that moment of time, I thought “wow”, and knew that it takes very different walks of life to make up the world, and also that maybe the profession that I choose, was one that some did not think much of.

As she turned away…..I also had a funny little thought.   Even if she was very condescending, I knew that she probably had a hairstylist.


Money & Living Life

The history of money goes back for centuries.

Not all of us are born with millions, and may never build a social media website that impacts the world….hahaaha    However, finding what makes yourself happy can certainly aid you to making your own choices.

In the early 90’s, I was at Staples when I came across a book called “Your Money Or Your Life”. 

Even though I was only in my 20’s, the title intrigued me enough to buy it.    It was so interesting, that it impacted the way I looked at money, shopping decisions and how our working equity is really our lifespan.   (Being healthy are the real riches in life)


“Enjoy Life”

The riches that we can experience, from day to day, are the people that we meet.

Not so long ago, I had the pleasure of meeting someone that shared their frustrations.   They were frustrated with other peoples judgements, of the “what do you do?” topic.

For some, maybe your life’s choices have lead you to being able to:

  • Work from home
  • Pursue traveling
  • Pursue artistic interests


In social situations, some can be very forward or borderline nosy, when it comes to asking that very personal question.   It certainly can create an awkward situation, and especially at a “black tie affair”.

In listening to my acquaintance’s dilemma, this is what came to me…..”ENJOY LIFE”.



I told them, that the next time someone (that is nosy) asks, “What do you do?”

ANSWER them with this:

“I enjoy life.”

I also told them, if the person persists and again asks “What do you do?”


Answer……”I enjoy life”…….and walk away.


Everyday can have “vacation moments”

When you adopt the “enjoy life” answer for yourself, you may experience a sense of ease or even less pressure about “how” you earn “the money” to pay for the things that you want & need.

What path you choose to get their……….is only your business.


No condescension necessary……….simply enjoy life!


Written by Ann Marie Walts

















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