Have you ever experienced, in a social situation, the infamous question of “what do you do? ”
There are times, looking back, that I feel that life can be so rushed. I know that the back of my Barbie doll box did not come with a set of instructions for what a grown up life would entail. (Maybe a good thing it did not….hahaha)
As a kid, there seems to be no worries, troubles and the best tool that was used throughout a given day; was our imaginations. Carefree bliss with no stresses of the big “what do you do?” question.
You could share blowing bubbles without a care in the world with your playmates without them caring or asking…..”well what type or brand of bubbles are you using, because I will only play with you if they are a certain type.”
What Do You Want To Be….when you grow up?
How about the “what do you want to be….when you grow up?” question that was asked and probably caused a bit of added pressure. Not everyone wakes up and knows the answer to that, and for some of us, if you do then you are lucky.
Myself personally, I knew that I wanted to be a “hairdresser”, and that was when I was about 8 years old. Maybe for just, but a few of us, are we lucky enough to know the answer to that question, and to enjoy following through with that decision.
Condescension vs Quality of Enjoying life
Money, religion and politics are very, very hot topics that are rooted with strong emotional opinions. I have been a hairstylist for close to 25 years, and have had the pleasure of working with very different people; from all walks of life.
Career Choice & Peer Pressure
What influences us to choose our careers?
- Wanting Status
- Seemed like a good idea?
Sometimes it may be our family’s history of professions, but what do you choose when maybe your family does not have a certain career path history?
Or How about the “what if”…..your young decision is one that you want but your parents do not approve?
Or…..how do you simply decide, in general?
From my own personal and professional experiences, I can share with you that it is best to choose your path that will lead to you enjoying the best quality of life.
It will be you, that has to go to that job (profession) that you chose. If the choice is based more on a chart, that projects the annually salary versus your personal interests ; then it could wind up being a really long “grown up” road.
Peer Pressure & Approval
About 20 years ago, I was at a dinner party when I first experienced “condescension regarding my profession”. I was asked, the famous question of ‘what do you do?”, by another women.
That was when I realized that sometimes others, put “value” or judge others by what someone has chosen for a profession.
As soon as I responded, with enthusiasm…..”I am a hairstylist!”; she then said, “oh….” and turned away from me. At that moment of time, I thought “wow”, and knew that it takes very different walks of life to make up the world, and also that maybe the profession that I choose, was one that some did not think much of.
As she turned away…..I also had a funny little thought. Even if she was very condescending, I knew that she probably had a hairstylist.
Money & Living Life
The history of money goes back for centuries.
Not all of us are born with millions, and may never build a social media website that impacts the world….hahaaha However, finding what makes yourself happy can certainly aid you to making your own choices.
In the early 90’s, I was at Staples when I came across a book called “Your Money Or Your Life”.
Even though I was only in my 20’s, the title intrigued me enough to buy it. It was so interesting, that it impacted the way I looked at money, shopping decisions and how our working equity is really our lifespan. (Being healthy are the real riches in life)
The riches that we can experience, from day to day, are the people that we meet.
Not so long ago, I had the pleasure of meeting someone that shared their frustrations. They were frustrated with other peoples judgements, of the “what do you do?” topic.
For some, maybe your life’s choices have lead you to being able to:
- Work from home
- Pursue traveling
- Pursue artistic interests
In social situations, some can be very forward or borderline nosy, when it comes to asking that very personal question. It certainly can create an awkward situation, and especially at a “black tie affair”.
In listening to my acquaintance’s dilemma, this is what came to me…..”ENJOY LIFE”.
I told them, that the next time someone (that is nosy) asks, “What do you do?”
ANSWER them with this:
“I enjoy life.”
I also told them, if the person persists and again asks “What do you do?”
Answer……”I enjoy life”…….and walk away.
Everyday can have “vacation moments”
When you adopt the “enjoy life” answer for yourself, you may experience a sense of ease or even less pressure about “how” you earn “the money” to pay for the things that you want & need.
What path you choose to get their……….is only your business.
No condescension necessary……….simply enjoy life!